In assessing originally African issues, it is not uncommon to delve into African American matters as well. The blacks are us, and we are them; so, we occasionally juxtapose African American issues and African issues as one and the same. By so doing, all matters of race, colour, poverty, segregation, jungle justice, and police extremism, affect both parties. One shared feature, however, is our radicalistic approach to making sure our voices get heard. Admittedly, there are times where we need to fight against racial discrimination. There are times when we need to resound that blacks are humans. There are also times Africans need to yell on the top of their voices that we are not as poor as ‘they’ think, and we are not necessarily corrupt… Well, not all of us. Heck, I have made it a point of duty to call to call the Whites out – Albeit on my mini word-changing blog. But, in all honesty, some of us need to chill out.

I had no intention of writing on this, but after following a trail of intensely aggressive write-ups by black women, I’m starting to wonder why the heat is turned up above a hundred. I read one piece earlier today, assessing the similarity of Blac Chyna to both Kim and Kris Kardashian. In comparing Chyna and Kim, the point noted was that both rose to fame after a few sexual scandals. In comparing Chyna to Kris on the other hand, the deal was that both women went after richer men they didn’t necessarily love. As you can guess, the writer’s end game was in strengthening the fact that black women get called out for stuff that the lighter skinned women easily get away with. I then read another post by one of my favourite writers. Here are excerpts from a beautifully written piece that was supposedly a movie review of Beauty and the Beast.

“…the film is a feminist work that depicts white femininity as the sole cure to bestiality…

“The film attempts to deflect from black male omission, by intertwining a few black female bodies in the background… The film centers on a young prince who incurs a curse from an elderly and homely woman. This curse proves eerily reminiscent of the “curse of ham” which functions to mythologically conceptualize blackness as produced by sin. This sin functions to explain the negative attributes that compose a caricatured blackness.

…It is also interesting that his unappealing aesthetics yield a brown beastly image. His curse could have easily transformed him into a white wolf that shared his light eyes, but his “ugliness” appears contingent to a darkening of his skin and widening of his features—traits commonly aligned with blackness

… When villagers finally cast their eyes on the beast, they shriek in horror–reflecting the reaction many black men encounter when out in public, whether in a suit or in a hoodie.

… The film accurately depicts the outcasted white woman as freeing the blackened prince from his burdened appearance”

Same author did a similar post where she wrote about Wonder Woman.

Clad in a form-fitting costume with long and silky dark hair, Wonder Woman encompasses the conventional sexiness of a blonde with the rarity of a red head to project feminism as the height of femininity”

I also went back to another post by yet another writer I’m super obsessed with, where Beyonce’s ‘Lemonade’ and Jay-Z’s 4:44 were assessed.

If anything, what makes this particular saga even worse is that the humiliation is, bizarrely, being championed as some sort of feminist fairytale. In Lemonade, part one of the fairytale, the plot went from deception to disbelief to vengeance and then forgiveness. In 4:44, the catharsis is reversed, moving through confession, remorse, self-flagellation and promises of change. In both cases, slick audiovisual packaging connects the dramatic intimate liaisons with the black struggle and women’s empowerment. To the extent it is feminist, this is commodified and commercialised.”

Inasmuch as I would champion any cause that I believe should be fought for, a lot of us have forgotten to just be happy about stuff – there’s always a burning desire to fight for something. Where there’s a glimpse of a possible avenue for any of these causes to be linked to Race or Feminism or any other cause that black people have stood for, then you best believe that somebody has taken it upon themselves to air it out. Yes, there are times where we need to complain about being excluded from movies as blacks; but, maybe worrying about the brownness and hairiness of the Beast in an original animation, is just looking for issues that do not exist – I could be wrong. Why can’t we just watch movies and enjoy it, rather than nod our heads sideways for the portrayal of a ‘westernised perception of beauty.’

The sooner we set aside our idea that the world is out to get us, the sooner things start becoming normal. Running to the defensive and finding faults that do not exist – whether as Africans, African Americans, Women, and so on, is in my opinion the fight of an insecure sect. Not everything a man does or says to a lady is in an attempt to show masculinity or marginalize women. Supposed minorities – in tribes, colours, or races, need to stop acting like they are victimised, and maybe we’ll see an atom of change around here. It is expedient to note, again, that I am in no way against fighting for any of these causes. I am as guilty of this as the other liberalists or humanists or feminists. I’m just saying we need to keep calm and focus on the issues that are worth fighting for instead.

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Lawretta Egba is a professional writer, ghostwriter, editor, and poet. She is the founder of Cyno Group, a boutique content creation/content marketing firm meeting the varying content needs of individuals and businesses towards effective storytelling, problem-solving and economic growth. The company offers in-house ghostwriting, editing, and content writing services for large corporations, businesspeople and economic leaders. Lawretta’s articles have been featured on a plethora of platforms within Nigeria and the diaspora. Some of these include the Premier Pan-African media group reporting on African affairs – Face2Face Africa, Arianna Huffington’s Thrive Global, Exquisite Magazine, YNaija, and a host of others. She runs two blogs:, where she reviews books, writes on mythology, peeks into transformational African topics, and analyzes matters of the human psyche; and, a brainchild created towards documenting everyday African stories. For info and inquiries, contact via:


  1. You’ve got a good point there. Same reason I now seldom write about feminism on Facebook. I focus on more important things. And it gives me headache when people make unnecessary issues out of every damn thing!

    • Tell me about it. But, a lot of us do it. I still remind my colleagues that I’m not a secretary because I’m female, every time they need me to print something. I guess it’s just a spill off from fighting too much. We just have to be conscious of it.


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